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Vessie Hargrow

Mother Vessie Hargrow, age 96 gained her heavenly wings on Tuesday, May 10, 2022. She was born to the late William and Georgia L. Ashby on May 25, 1925 in Princess Anne County currently known as Virginia Beach. She resided in the New Light community for many years and was loved and well respected by all. She was affectionately called “Wee-O” and “Red Gal” by family and friends. Mother Hargrow retired from Norfolk Public Schools as a custodian where she became an adopted Mom for many students at Booker T. Washington High School and has kept in touch with many of them over the years. On January 15, 1958, Mother Hargrow married Henry Lee Hargrow and from this union they had one beautiful daughter, Lavalette. Mother Hargrow was a strong, giving and loving woman. She wasn’t afraid of anyone or anything. She always spoke her mind and gave great counsel because she wanted everyone to live their best life happily. After retirement, she started baby sitting in her home; this allowed her to continue touching the lives of many children. She was very stern, but fair and loved most for her honesty. Mother Hargrow has been a member of New Light Baptist Church her entire life. She loved God, her church, and her family. One of her greatest honors was when Bishop Rudolph B. Lewis, Sr. named her “Mother” of the Church. Serving as a dedicated member of the Floral Club, Pastor’s Aide, Addie Hammond Seniors Ministry, the Senior and Gospel choirs also gave her joy. Music and good singing were her passion; and she attended the “Singings” at every opportunity. She was known as the “Yok Queen”; no one could cook it better. It gave her great pleasure to be a giver and just helping people. Weekly, she drove around Hampton Roads giving away bread and vegetables. As a gleaner, she often picked the vegetables that she gave away. Her giving spirit ensured her abundant blessings, and she was never without. Mother Hargrow was predeceased by her husband, Henry Hargrow; parents; sisters: Essie, Doris, Annie, Elsie Mae, Emma and Joycelean; her brothers: John, Elton, Bernard, Bennie, Jessie, Sr. and Walter; stepchildren: Deborah Tiggs and Vernon Hargrow. Mother Hargrow leaves to cherish her memory, one daughter, LaValette Boney; two stepsons: Henry “Junie” Watson (Irene) and Melvin Simmons (Merdell); two grandsons: Dave “DJ” Martin, II (Precious) and Magnus Martin; five great grandchildren: Danayah, Dakari, Mai’Angel, Maliyah and Cherish; six step grandchildren: Feliscia, Terrell, Renata, Winetta, Edmond and Jamal and their children; one sister, Earlean Wilkins; along with a host of other nieces, nephews, cousins, friends and especially adopted daughter, Debra Smith. Memories last a lifetime only if you share them.

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James and I loved Mrs. Vessie to life. It was such a joy to be in her presence. She always made us laugh. Mrs. Vessie reminded me of my grandmother and this made me love her all the more. Mrs. Vessie will be sorely missed.


A candle was lit in memory of Vessie Hargrow

Rose Brooks May 19 2022 3:03 PM

A candle was lit in memory of Vessie Hargrow

Rose Brooks May 19 2022 3:02 PM

A candle was lit in memory of Vessie Hargrow

Darlene Collins May 19 2022 12:25 PM

My condolences to Lavellete and the family for your loss.

Tracy Smith May 18 2022 10:50 PM

A candle was lit in memory of Vessie Hargrow

Darlene Collins May 18 2022 7:23 PM

I am so saddened about the passing of your Mom, Ms. Vessie. For many decades, Ms. Vessie was New Light. She had a very deep love for her community, her family and for her church. During your times of sorrow, I pray that you will be uplifted and find peace in the many special memories that you shared with her over the years.
Kimberly Ferebee-Ward

Kimberly Ferebee-Ward May 18 2022 2:23 PM

Lavalette, we were so sadden to her about the passing of your mom Wee-O. She was truly the maitrot of the family. For 17 years, I loved her wisdom, her jokes and how she made you laugh all the time. She will truly be missed by all. I know her dedication with helping my dad Henry Jenkins with their bread deliveries at their age was truly a blessing from God. Our prayers and thoughts are with you and the entire Ashby family. God bless and keep you strong at this time. Love Delores (Dee-Dee) Mays

Delores J Mays May 18 2022 7:56 AM

Sincere condolences to the family.

Chystell & Anthony Holland Sr. May 16 2022 8:58 PM

Sharing your loss. May God continue to comfort you during this time of bereavement

Shirley Davis May 16 2022 8:28 AM

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