Queen Speller Wilder

Queen Speller Wilder transitioned on Thursday July 7, 2021 at her residence in Virginia Beach, Virginia.

She was blessed with the love of God in her heart, mind, and soul. Her main goal throughout her adult life was to ensure the next generations knew and loved Jesus Christ. She started pouring the word of God into her children and grandchildren at an early age. She seized every opportunity to let everyone know that the only way to the Father is to accept Jesus Christ as your savior through prayer; meditation; and reading/studying the word of God.

Because of Jesus Christ, Queen was an anchor for her family and friends. She was the sunlight in their lives. She provided wisdom, substance, good food, shelter, and protection for her family and friends. She enjoyed daily fellowship with her family while they read the bible, sang praise music, and prayed with her. She was her family's heroine. She stood by the family in the good, bad, and ugly, while imparting great wisdom to whomever needed assistance.

Memories of her love, warm embrace, and beautiful smile will forever be in the hearts of her family and friends. As Queen, our mother, grandmother, sister, aunt, cousin, and friend would say..."THERE IS NO DANGER IN GOD'S WATER."

Queen was preceded in death by her husband, Robert Wilder Jr., three sons, Samuel Wilder (still born); Robert Wilder III, and Oisborne Wilder; one daughter, Alma Wilder, and grandson, O'Kahn Dubois Wilder. Her extended family included: two sons-in-law, Robert Malone; and John W. Arnette Jr.; her parents, Alfred James Speller (Mary); father-in-law Robert Wilder Sr. (Madie); four sisters, Mary Godfrey (Sunny); Roxanna Porter (Rosco); Sweetie Gardner and Bernice Sesson; two brothers, James Speller (Rosamae), and Burnell Speller; five brothers-in-law, Johnnie Jimmerson; Nathaniel Wilder Sr., James Wilder (Bernetha); Curtis Wilder and Herman Wilder Sr.; and one sister-in-law, Alberta Wilder.

To cherish her memory, she leaves behind five daughters, Airfield Gloria Wilder; Queen Goffigan (Allen); Bernette Johnson; Ouila Irene Malone and Vanessa Ann Arnette; one son, David Wilder (Luci); twenty-three grandchildren; thirty-one great-grandchildren, and five great-great grandchildren.

Queen's extended family will miss her encouragement and love of life: Ronnie Sanders (Mary); two brothers, Elder Robert Speller (Eldeania) and Jessie Speller; one sister, Catherine Wiggins (Clarence); six sisters-in-law Mary Cox Gregory (Bobby); Carolyn Lee Blount; Madie Humber; Gladys Wilder; Mary Wilder and Julia Ann Alston, two brothers-in-law, Bishop Daniel Gardner and Melvin Johnson; and a host of cousins, nieces, nephews, and friends.


Due to the pandemic, the family has decided out of respect for our elderly and those with underlying illness to forgo having a repass.

The Wilder Family respectfully appreciates, and sincerely thank you all for your expressions of love and, condolences as we celebrate the homegoing of our beloved Mrs. Queen Speller Wilder.

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